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Are You Ready for a Relationship?

It’s a question that many people ask singles of a certain age – are you ready for a relationship? Before you start looking for one, you have to determine whether you are really ready to put the work and the stress into having a relationship. While you might say one thing, your actions will reveal whether or not you are being truthful.

When it comes to your love life, you have to be serious. If you just want someone to have fun with and not fall in love with, that is totally acceptable. This is your life and you have to live it the way you want to.

So how do you know that you are ready for a relationship? Take a look at your behaviors:

You’ve Gone Through the “Young Again” Phase

When we are single at a later stage in our lives, we tend to go through something called the “young again” phase. This is when we go to bars or clubs to try to meet someone. Too often we are confronted with the fact that we are older and this isn’t the place for us anymore. Sure, you might be able to meet someone, but it isn’t the genuine connection that we tend to crave in our twilight years.

If you genuinely love to go out but you do want a relationship, there is nothing wrong with that! Find someone who wants to go out as well and then you can do it together.

You’ve Thought About Why Previous Relationships Have Failed

In order to move on from past relationships, you have to be able to dissect them. Why did the relationship go sour? What role did you play? Even though we all want to believe that we are perfect and did nothing wrong, it took two people to get into that relationship and it will take two people to get out of it. Everyone loves to be “the good guy” but to move on, you have to really think critically about your own role.

If you are ready for a relationship, you will have learned from your mistakes. Maybe you’ll do something different this time. Maybe you’ll look for something different. Maybe you won’t accept the same type of treatment you got before. Life is a journey, and if we learn as we go, then you are looking toward something great.

You Have No Place for Drama

Not only have you looked at your past relationships, but you have very few ties to them. If you can safely say AND feel that you are “over” whoever your last significant other was, then you are well on your way to being ready for a relationship. So many people only want to move on because they feel like they have to, whether your significant other passed away, you got a divorce, or you just had a nasty breakup after many years.

To know you are truly ready for a relationship means that you won’t bring that hurt and anger into this new relationship. You don’t want the dramatic fireworks and reconciliation – you want a true, adult relationship.

Everyone has a goal of being in a relationship. Especially as we age, no one wants to be alone. Still, you have to know whether or not you are ready for a relationship. If you try to be in one too soon, you will end up hurting yourself and someone else much, much more.